What’s  Really Going On?????? – Part 1

I recently sat through a somewhat, to me, excruciating viewing of Iyanla and Oprah doing a Life Class on “The Terrible Things Women Do to Each Other”.  It was very interesting – and let me say that the reason I found it excruciating is because Iyanla can sometimes grate my left nerve with her in your face attitude. No matter the situation, I believe in respecting folk and sometimes it seems she forgets that. But that’s my rant – back to my point…

 Iyanla says that women are programmed to believe that there isn’t enough of whatever to go around so we have to keep it all for ourselves. Basically, the gist of what they were saying is that we act this way because we are/have been oppressed and that men don’t often exhibit the same behavior because they are programmed to do well and expect others to do the same. Personally I know some men who act this way and if we break it down to race – well…. But anyway.

 Just the other day I had a conversation with the group of girls I work with on etiquette and life skills. An incident had occurred and they had gotten into trouble at school. Not one of them stood firm in defending one another. All of them lied, denied and passed blame on another.  To me this was unconscionable. WTF?

 

Is this where we begin to learn the bad behavior of tearing one another down? Well, with more than just my best effort, I am going to work on helping stop this behavior with this group. And you know what they say –“each one teach one”. Hopefully they will take something away from our sessions and teach it to someone else.

As for us women...I must stand up and raise my hand to having been guilty of all the behaviors O and I talked about in their life class: BETRAYING CONFIDENCES:  I have told my best friend things that I was supposed to never tell a soul. But I have never betrayed her confidences.  GOSSIP: I have said things about someone that I got third party even though I wasn’t sure of the source or the info  - which is the same as gossiping. LIEING: I have lied out of fear; as a means of protecting myself and/or others; and I have lied when I have felt threatened. C0MPETING: I have competed for jobs, men, attention, etc…with the utmost justification. But I know you, dear blog reader, are not guilty of such wanton disregard for your fellow woman. Yeah right.

 The most important thing I got out of this life class was something I already knew – WHAT YOU GIVE IS WHAT YOU GET! And you know I’m right. The Bible says we reap what we sow.  Each of us can think of some things we have done that were not really correct. In other words we have been triple O (Out Of Order) in our relationships with other women. But here’s a tip: Handle up on your own stuff and you will find little time to be dipping into someone else’s. And you can take that to your “I'm a do better” bank.

 
Ladies WTF is going on?  Let me charge you with this little tidbit: Be responsible for the energy in your own life that you inevitably share with the world… In other words watch your actions and if you don’t want what you do to others to be done to you – STOP DOING IT!!!
 

Now let me go work on Part 2. Oh, and please post your comments. All you have to do is click on the “No Comments” and choose Anonymous or another identifier. A screen will open for you to key in what you would like to say and really want to read what say you on how we treat one another.

As always, be blessed and be wonderful!